Goal Setting And The Importance Of FocusFocus On The Positive For Great Results How and what you focus on either makes or breaks your goal setting. As a hypnotherapist I meet many people who want to quit smoking, many who have and many who are “trying.” One thing that always stands out to me is attitude and how their goal of stopping smoking is affected by that attitude, good or bad it matters not.To break this down into it's simplest form there are 2 directions that the focus takes; “It's been 3 weeks since my last cigarette.” Which do you think is the best attitude, focus and way of thinking? I know its a no brainer but it is something that can go unchecked if it is not pointed out. Focusing on the time since their last cigarette, the first person will never attain their goal of being a non smoker because they are focussing on what they do not want and whatever you focus on with enough intent, you always get! Eventually they will cave in to their cravings and light up. The irony of it is that they will then congratulate themselves on going 3 months without a cigarette (therefore reinforcing the negative side of the goal!) I am not a smoker and therefore I do not count how long it is been since I had a cigarette because I simply do not smoke. So, how does this apply to other areas such as sports etc.? Take for instance the real life example of a martial artist I worked with who always closed her eyes when she was fighting in competitions... *For client anonymity (even though I have her permission to talk about her case) I will simply call her Sharon. Sharon was an accomplished martial artist, yet despite this and for some (unknown at the time) reason she always shut her eyes when being attacked during competition sparring. After working on this and resolving the issue with a couple of techniques I caught up with Sharon to check her progress and she informed me that she had not shut her eyes while sparring for weeks now and had taken second place in a recent competition. Needless to say I spelt out the importance of re-framing that attitude because she had to think of that old behaviour as something she no longer did and simply forget it rather than count down to herself until she relapsed, because believe me... she would! So, take some time out to ask yourself a couple of questions... How is my focus when I am assessing my progress? How do I ascertain whether I have been
successful at achieving my goals? © Brian Watson - Practice Secrets Revealed
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